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Saturday, August 20, 2016

Past wishes..

I got my GED. But I still wish I could have graduated with my class. I wish I could have gone to my school reunion... It is the only regret I have. Honestly I just want to cry right now thinking about it.

I didn't get to walk the graduation walk.

I didn't have friends around me to expierence my pregnancies.

It may seem selfish but I never had a baby shower, or any type of party to celebrate the life of my children.

I didn't do a wedding.

We didn't have a reception.

I will make sure my daughter has these things in her life.

Pity party for one.

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

How I found my house.

So to Start my Mom was living in Sparta Tn doing fine. My mother's sister (I dislike this bitch) called her and stated that she couldn't handle my cousin any more. My mom agreed to let him move in with her, because she didn't want him to be homeless. (He is "slow", 28 yo with the mind of a 12 yo).

Mom tells her landlord he flips shit and kicked her out because of my cousin's criminal history. She then puts all her stuff to storage and moves in with her sister the bitch in FL all the while searching for a place to live in TN for her and my cousin. He has not had a very good life and my mom wants to help change that for him.
Well in her search for a place to live she just so happens to find a house in MY CITY for $3,000 down! Well she calls about house and can't get it due to Cousin's history. Soooooooo. She calls me fills me in on the place and gives me the address and number...
Now for those of you who have not read my past posts... DH gets a certain allotment of money from his Trust every month. (Grandpa died left DH monies) We called Trust and bumped up Sep.'s payment to 8/16 today and BAM BAM BAM BAM I have a house!
Well I will after I make the down payment later on today! Rent To Own
Cool house facts...
1. 2.2 miles from current Doritos bag sized duplex
2. Close to poke stops!
3. Affordable Both front and back yards fenced in! 
4. it was built in 1918 and will be my project house for the next 90+ years cause you know I'm never gonna die lol!
DH and I are already planning how to set up the place and the renovations we plan on making over the next few years!
In all honesty I am just happy to have a place big enough for all of my kids to have rooms in when they get older.

Monday, August 15, 2016

A New Beginning...

So Hey there internet world. I am so excited to share the possibilities of a new and better life with my DH (Dear Husband)! 

Things in our lives are finally looking up! What do I mean by finally looking up? 

1. Bills are paid on time all the time
2. New Car! No seriously, this car had 13 miles on it when we drove it off the lot! 
3. The SERIOUS possibility of owning our own home. Like in the next few days beginning our Rent to Own status! 
4. 5 bedrooms, fenced in front and back yards!
5. Adoption Started with my DD for DH to be her Dad Legally 

More to come but my kids are hungry and need the foods! 

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Youngest Dear Son Born April 7 2015

It has been a year and four months and my YDS is growing so fast, his Birth was by far the most amazing experience ever.

I got to the hospital and they set me up for my fluids because go figure I was dehydrated again. I get my fluids and its time for the epi. It took us an hour to get the epidural in the proper place but, once we did I was golden!

My sweet child was born and I didn't have any trauma like experiences with his birth like I did with my older two.  It was a one two push and here he was. I got to hold him right away and put him straight on the boob where he ate for a good 5 minutes before falling asleep in my arms.

My support system this time around was amazing, I had my mom and my husband there for me. I will admit that I was having mini panic attacks as the push time came closer because of my previous births. YDS' birth was by far easier as I didn't have people touching me unless I asked or it was a doctor (I hate being touched). After birth I got to just chill and hold my little monkey boy while he slept on me.

We finally moved into the recovery room after I could walk to go pee. Once in the recovery room my mom went and retrieved my two other kids and they got to meet YDS.

We stayed in the hospital for 3 days and before we left the hospital gave my DH and I a celebratory lunch. it was so sweet and special, they set every thing up in my RR and then did all the clean up!

I am so happy with the birth experience that I would do it again if DH would let me.  

Life Update

It has been a long while since I last updated. We left of with January and a letter to my in-laws, which was followed by DH and I finally getting married in February.  I shared this post on FB but it is very relative.

 I got married Monday the 22nd. My amazing husband wants to complete our family by adopting DD and giving her our last name. So as much as I hate to bring it up or even bother him, I need sperm donor's address, so that I can serve him with an adoption petition for my daughter. Any and all help will be appreciated. I am hoping to get the adoption process done before she starts school in August. This is all I want from him after this no contact ever again. 

Have not heard from his parents. We figured better to hear it from us... not to mention kinda felt like spitting on the grave of the dead. I got married yesterday (2/23/16) in Jeans and a tank top. Paid my mom's bills with her money. Went to the nail salon AFTER my clerks office wedding. Talked DH into getting a pedicure. I didn't want to cook or go home so I talked DH into cracker barrel with his grand parents our kids and my aunt and nephew. 
Paid 200$ to get married and 80$ for dinner for 9 people. 

We don't talk to his parents because they were being sucky, I intentionally sent his mom a pic of our wedding certificate. He sent one to his dad. ( drama starting I know but fuck them) Looks like it's the news paper route for getting my daughter adopted. Annoying but what ever.

Since our wedding we have contacted my DD's sperm donor and gotten the ball rolling on him giving up his rights to her so that my now DH can adopt her! Yay and we are hoping to have this all done before school starts in Aug.

Now I know that no one is really interested in reading what I post here so its more like a journal entry for me.

Like right now I am watching Army Wives for the second time starting from S:1 E:1.  I am feeling really good right now. My dishwasher is full I have towels in the wash and I don't feel sleepy.

It has been really hard on me lately dealing with depression. I don't believe is is just one type of depression. I find it hard to get out of bed usually and tonight I just feel ready to go. In a little while I will get off this computer and go finish up the little bit of cleaning I can do right now.

Monday, July 4, 2016

A look back on being bullied.

I am 27 years old. It has been many years since I was in school of any kind. Do you know what I remember most?

Being bullied, and called names.

In elementary school it was because of my clothes were different my hair short and, being too poor for the field trips. I don't think I will ever forget not going to Washington D.C. I  don't think I will ever forget the "jokes" of looked what you missed.

In middle school it was because I was different before my time. I loved to experiment with different hair styles and clothing styles. I loved to braid my hair in strings all over, once I even pinned the ends to my head and created a "Mohawk". This turned out to be one of the most significant times I can remember is a girl I hardly knew decided my hairstyle was not good enough for her. She decided to pick and pick and get others to pick at me until the little self esteem I had for the day was gone. I took my hair down to end the ridicule and she laughed at me triumphant in her goal to tear me down.

Even now at 27 years old my go to hairstyle is now a ponytail. I do not have the confidence to be daring in my hair or clothing styles. I stick to plain-jane jeans and a t-shirt because its easier to be invisible if blend in.

Guys pulling the "I like you but can't be seen with you" things.

I once thought I could be different, I could be who I wanted to be. Nope I am every thing They said I would be. I am 'big as a house", I am "fat". I'm a nobody. I am insecure in my relationships.

I am truly happily married and still second guess every single choice I make because I don't want to lose my soul mate.

I am often terrified to say what is on my mind because I have been bullied into submission to be a people pleaser.

Don't make waves, don't be different, don't have an opinion. Shut up and walk away.

It is so hard to let go of these things. It is so hard to change your thought process of what used to be the norm. Change how I see myself every day.

To the bullies of my past,

I forgive you I truly do. Just know that what you did then had reactions. How you treat people effects them even if they ignore you, even if they pretend they are OK.


Sunday, May 15, 2016

What am I supposed to do?

I feel like crap. I don't want get out of bed. I am not sure if this is a part of my previous / current PPD. I miss my job at C. I miss FL I miss having friends to hang out with and do things with.